The Bleak Reality of Male Abuse Survivors

Over the past year, I’ve been writing a book called, Those Who Weep, which chronicles the spiritual recovery process of abuse survivors. As I continue to write and edit, I mostly draw upon my own personal experiences. However, I have also interviewed many fellow survivors in order to identify commonalities and key issues. To my surprise, of the nearly 60 …

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Here’s What It’s Like Witnessing Sex Abuse Scandals As A Child Abuse Survivor

As a child, it was weird watching the news and seeing the media abuzz with Bill Clinton’s sex scandals. I was probably about seven years old. I remember how my parents, staunch Republicans and conservative Christians, were disgusted by the parade of lurid accusations and shameless lies. “He’s an embarrassment,” they said. “He’s a sick pervert.” Even then, long before …

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Brave Enough to be Angry No Longer: A Response To Lindy West

I am officially tired of feminist extremists hijacking the pain of abuse victims to prop up their political agendas. While real abuse survivors – both men and women – pour out our hearts on social media, some activists are leveraging these #MeToo stories and Hollywood tragedies to promote abortion, justify the degradation of men, and guilt-trip Americans because Hillary didn’t …

#MeToo vs. the Danger of Blaming White Men for Abuse

Yesterday and today an incredibly empowering yet harrowing hashtag has been trending on Twitter. #MeToo is being used by sexual abuse and harassment survivors to share their stories and highlight the magnitude of the abuse epidemic throughout the US and the world. It’s not only women posting either. A good number of male abuse survivors joined in the conversation, along …

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Harvey Weinstein: Why Did No One Speak Up?

Circling the rubble of Harvey Weinstein’s imploded reputation are an assortment of buzzardly lies and rumors. Some people don’t understand the motivations of an abuser. Others don’t understand why abuse victims would keep silent for years, even decades. Here are a few of the misunderstandings, and a bit of clarification, regarding the chemistry of an abusive relationship: Rumor: Sexual Predators …