The Bleak Reality of Male Abuse Survivors

Over the past year, I’ve been writing a book called, Those Who Weep, which chronicles the spiritual recovery process of abuse survivors. As I continue to write and edit, I mostly draw upon my own personal experiences. However, I have also interviewed many fellow survivors in order to identify commonalities and key issues. To my surprise, of the nearly 60 …

What To Expect When You Come Out As An Abuse Survivor

If you follow me on Twitter, you know I’ve been very vocal lately about my past experiences with child abuse and domestic violence. However, I originally came out about my victimization long before #MeToo or #TimesUp ever swept the internet. In fact, I came out during my early marriage, in 2006, when I publicly denounced my dad as a violent …

See, What Kind of Love: How 1 John 3 Speaks to Child Abuse Survivors

This morning a pastor friend of mine, Reverend J. Michael Dixon of The Orchard Church in Chicago, sought to encourage me by tweeting me 1 John 3:1. I frequently speak on social media about a feeling of being orphaned, and this was such a perfect verse to address that feeling. After reading the entire chapter and realizing what riches it …

Elijah Wood, Child Abuse & The Huckleberry Finn Effect

When I was a child, one of my favorite movies was The Adventures of Huck Finn, starring Elijah Wood. I was only eight years old when the film came out, so I watched it before I’d ever read the book. I developed a kid-crush on the blue-eyed protagonist of the story, who was quick-witted and cocky despite being abused and …

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Brave Enough to be Angry No Longer: A Response To Lindy West

I am officially tired of feminist extremists hijacking the pain of abuse victims to prop up their political agendas. While real abuse survivors – both men and women – pour out our hearts on social media, some activists are leveraging these #MeToo stories and Hollywood tragedies to promote abortion, justify the degradation of men, and guilt-trip Americans because Hillary didn’t …

#MeToo vs. the Danger of Blaming White Men for Abuse

Yesterday and today an incredibly empowering yet harrowing hashtag has been trending on Twitter. #MeToo is being used by sexual abuse and harassment survivors to share their stories and highlight the magnitude of the abuse epidemic throughout the US and the world. It’s not only women posting either. A good number of male abuse survivors joined in the conversation, along …