Great (but Realistic) Expectations: What Does Happiness Look Like?

Lately in my conversations with readers, the topic of abuse recovery has come up. Some of us don’t expect to ever fully heal. Others are desperate to heal, and cling to the hope that we will someday feel happy and secure. While on the one hand we don’t want to stagnate in a state of perpetual pain and sorrow, it’s …

See, What Kind of Love: How 1 John 3 Speaks to Child Abuse Survivors

This morning a pastor friend of mine, Reverend J. Michael Dixon of The Orchard Church in Chicago, sought to encourage me by tweeting me 1 John 3:1. I frequently speak on social media about a feeling of being orphaned, and this was such a perfect verse to address that feeling. After reading the entire chapter and realizing what riches it …

Jesus, Keep Me Near The Cross: A Tribute to Sutherland Springs First Baptist Church

A week has passed since the unthinkable occured at Sutherland Springs First Baptist Church, just east of San Antonio, Texas. This morning, during worship at Cornerstone Presbyterian Church, I played and sang Jesus, Keep Me Near The Cross, which is a beautiful old Baptist hymn. The survivors of the massacre were lifted up in prayer. Here is a video I recorded …

The Outrage Epidemic & How To Love A Hater

Lately, outrage is everywhere. It seems that everybody is mad about something, and feeling “triggered” is practically considered a virtue. Even justifiable anger over real problems frequently seems blown-out-of-proportion and unnecessarily life-impacting. Just in the past week I’ve seen people seething over Donald Trump, gluten, home decor, sexism, Kevin Spacey, God, the cultural appropriation of tacos, and whether or not …

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Why I Changed My Name From Jennifer Grassman to Jennifer Greenberg

Since I was sixteen, singing songs at coffee houses and selling $5 home-burned CDs of my music, I marketed myself as Jennifer Grassman. My maiden name is on all my albums, posters, social media accounts, and in press coverage. When I married Jason Greenberg in 2006, my maiden name was already everywhere. On merchandise, marketing materials, newspaper interviews, televised performances, …

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The Cursed Blessing of Depression

We’ve been through a lot together, you and I. You were always there, no matter how horrible things got. I remember as a young child, making mud-pies in the back yard, and feeling your unmistakable presence. I promised you then, that whenever I talked to myself, I was actually talking to you. My childhood became a prayer, and with a …

Reactionary Atheism: When Evil Is Bigger Than God

Some of the most pain-riddled people you will ever encounter will call themselves atheists. While some atheists are calmly secure in their unbelief, others lash out at Christians with vehemence. I call these people, “reactionary atheists,” because often they do in fact believe in God. I know this because they are so very angry at him. I do not say …