#MeToo vs. the Danger of Blaming White Men for Abuse

Yesterday and today an incredibly empowering yet harrowing hashtag has been trending on Twitter. #MeToo is being used by sexual abuse and harassment survivors to share their stories and highlight the magnitude of the abuse epidemic throughout the US and the world. It’s not only women posting either. A good number of male abuse survivors joined in the conversation, along …

Abuse, photo by Kat Jayne

Harvey Weinstein: Why Did No One Speak Up?

Circling the rubble of Harvey Weinstein’s imploded reputation are an assortment of buzzardly lies and rumors. Some people don’t understand the motivations of an abuser. Others don’t understand why abuse victims would keep silent for years, even decades. Here are a few of the misunderstandings, and a bit of clarification, regarding the chemistry of an abusive relationship: Rumor: Sexual Predators …

Hugh Hefner & The Legacy of Pornography

As someone whose childhood was severely damaged by pornography, I find it difficult to be undisturbed by the sorrow which so many have expressed at the passing of Hugh Hefner. They mourn as if a great benefactor of humanity has been lost. These people do not comprehend the true nature of Hugh Hefner’s pornography. They do not understand, or they choose …

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How Did We Come To This Place?

Many people likely think I’m foolish for voting 3rd Party for Evan McMullin (I know, I feel the eye-rolls), but if you have a few minutes and an open mind, I’d like to explain my reasons. As someone who survived child abuse, I have never been able to stand idly by when I recognize evil. To me, ignoring or justifying evil is …

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The Walking Dead: You Know They’re Going To Kill Everyone, Right?

I don’t blame anyone for watching The Walking Dead. I enjoyed the story of the first season, because the tragedy of Police Officer Rick Grimes getting shot was so realistic. The friendship between him and partner Shane Walsh felt authentic. The suspense of hoping Rick would find Lori and Carl was gripping. And of course the emotional confusion that followed …

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Father’s Day For The Fatherless: Let This Bring You JOY!

I was about 11 years old when I realized that my dad didn’t love me. I remember praying and telling God, “You need to be my Father. You need to be my dad. If I don’t have a dad, I’m going to have a lot of problems when I turn into a teenager.” I still had a lot of problems …

Dear Dad I Never Had: I Miss You. I Love You. Happy Father’s Day.

Dear Dad I Never Had, As you know, we have never met. It’s not because I didn’t have a dad. I did. I had a biological father, but he didn’t love me. So, he wasn’t really a real dad, was he? But you were. I imagined you. I missed you. I still miss you … every day.

A Christian Response To The Orlando Massacre & Christina Grimmie Shooting

The news out of Orlando this week has been both terrifying and heartbreaking. In addition to the Pulse nightclub massacre, Christian singer Christina Grimmie was shot while signing autographs after her concert. The two stories are separate. The killers were different people with different beliefs and different agendas. The victims were diverse; of different religions, lifestyles, ages, and races. Nevertheless, …

A Christian Response: Two Pastors Arrested in TN Sex Trafficking Operation

Today, a lot of people will mock Christians. They will say we are frauds, phonies, and hypocrites. They will say that Jesus Christ is a failure. They will say that salvation is a myth. They are wrong.