Jennifer Grassman

Mother’s Day: Searching For My Mom

I had hand-drawn cards from my kids, a bottle of wine and roses from my husband, but I felt I couldn’t fully appreciate them. Mother’s Day just wasn’t about me. There was an emptiness that could only be explained by the hole that was left by my mother.

So, You Want to Stop the Next School Shooter?

I stole his gun. I hid it, unloaded and wrapped in a towel, in a box of chintzy craft supplies, knitting, and fashion accessories I’d accrued as a teenager. It was the last place he’d look. I left the ammo in his dresser drawer. It was my way of mocking him, as if to say, “I’ve taken your power, but left the bullets so you can play marbles with them.”

Sheriff Israel, Tide Pods, and The Religion of Irresponsibility

These days, I don’t expect people to care. I don’t expect people to pay attention or comprehend a problem unless you rub their noses in it. Nevertheless, the level of apathy and negligence demonstrated by Broward County Sheriff’s Office shocked me.

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Here’s What It’s Like Witnessing Sex Abuse Scandals As A Child Abuse Survivor

As a child, it was weird watching the news and seeing the media abuzz with Bill Clinton’s sex scandals. I was probably about seven years old. I remember how my parents, staunch Republicans and conservative Christians, were disgusted by the parade of lurid accusations and shameless lies. “He’s an embarrassment,” they said. “He’s a sick pervert.” Even then, long before …

Jesus, Keep Me Near The Cross: A Tribute to Sutherland Springs First Baptist Church

A week has passed since the unthinkable occured at Sutherland Springs First Baptist Church, just east of San Antonio, Texas. This morning, during worship at Cornerstone Presbyterian Church, I played and sang Jesus, Keep Me Near The Cross, which is a beautiful old Baptist hymn. The survivors of the massacre were lifted up in prayer. Here is a video I recorded …

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Why Anthony Rapp’s Account of Sexual Assault is Extremely Important

In an article published Sunday night on BuzzFeed, Star Trek: Discovery actor Anthony Rapp has revealed that back when he was a budding 14-year-old Broadway star, Kevin Spacey attempted statutory rape. It all happened after a party at Spacey’s apartment. As the only kid in attendance, Anthony was bored. Not knowing anyone else there, he wandered off to a bedroom …

#MeToo vs. the Danger of Blaming White Men for Abuse

Yesterday and today an incredibly empowering yet harrowing hashtag has been trending on Twitter. #MeToo is being used by sexual abuse and harassment survivors to share their stories and highlight the magnitude of the abuse epidemic throughout the US and the world. It’s not only women posting either. A good number of male abuse survivors joined in the conversation, along …