When The Good Samaritan saw the beaten up man on the side of the road, he stepped into the ditch. He stepped into the filth, mud, and danger with that man. The Samaritan was a prosperous man. He had a fair amount of money with him, as well as soothing oils and wine. It would have been easy for him …
A Christian woman’s value and identity are found in Jesus Christ, not in her relationship status or her fertility. Fertility is worshipped by pagans, not Christians.
If we will only listen to people in pain when they articulate clearly and calmly, then we will never listen at all. What happened to me repeatedly and agonizingly must never happen to another child of the OPC.
I do not wish to harm the OPC, but I have been grievously harmed within it. I fear that to apologize for my grief could imply to other survivors that they should not express their own grief, so I cannot do that. Rather, I beg you to be patient with me. Try to see the world and our denomination through my eyes. I want it to be my home, but I also want it to be safe.
I am sorry that it has come to this. I have tried to warn, to hold accountable in private, to encourage righteousness and honor. No one listens. No one cares. You fear the abuser more than you fear God.
Originally, when I submitted this to New Horizons, I did not name names. However, I have since edited and updated the piece, because I believe that honesty is incredibly important at this time. A follow up article detailing further abuse and failures within the OPC will be posted shortly.
Since publishing Not Forsaken, I’ve received many emails from survivors of abuse, betrayal, assault, and divorce, asking for prayer and advice. One of the most common requests is for more in-depth help on how to overcome the sexual anxiety and shame that now tarnishes or inhibits marital intimacy. While I could probably write a whole book on this topic, I pray this article, published today on The Gospel Coalition, encourages you or someone you know:
Understanding Baptism correctly should result in increased freedom and equality for women. Misunderstanding it can lead to all sorts of strange ideas, even leaving the church vulnerable to abusers and liars.
Over the past few months, a number of my articles have been published by The Gospel Coalition, ERLC, and CrossWalk. Here’s a catalog about what I’ve been writing:
A review of the ERLC Caring Well Conference, by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg, who shared her Survivor Story on Friday, October 4th, and spoke on the panel, “What Every Woman Needs to Know About Abuse.”