emotional abuse

#AskJenn | Spiritual Abuse: My husband is a pastor but he’s destroying my faith.

Hi Jennifer. I’m in a marriage where there’s emotional and spiritual abuse. My husband is a pastor and very legalistic. He constantly criticizes me, accuses me of not doing God’s will, and claims he knows what God’s will is even on non-eternal issues. He can’t agree to disagree, and it’s damaging my faith to the point that I sometimes doubt …

Abuse, photo by Kat Jayne

2 Lies that Enable Abuse in the Church

My mom knew that my dad was a pervert with a violent temper who never apologized for anything. She thought that if she submitted to him and was a good Christian wife, he would eventually become a good Christian man, repent of his sin, and love her. Her background included catholic, charismatic, and reformed doctrines, and there was a copy …

The Healing Power of Old Hymns

There were many times, particularly when I was a teenager and young adult, that I took great solace in hymns. Some seem to think that’s a bit odd. I suppose it is unusual for a teenager to gravitate so strongly toward “old-fashioned” music. However, the lyrics of hymns tend to be much more rich, thoughtful, and profound than your typical …