My mom knew that my dad was a pervert with a violent temper who never apologized for anything. She thought that if she submitted to him and was a good … Continue reading 2 Lies that Enable Abuse in the Church
There were many times, particularly when I was a teenager and young adult, that I took great solace in hymns. Some seem to think that’s a bit odd. I suppose … Continue reading The Healing Power of Old Hymns
I had hand-drawn cards from my kids, a bottle of wine and roses from my husband, but I felt I couldn’t fully appreciate them. Mother’s Day just wasn’t about me. There was an emptiness that could only be explained by the hole that was left by my mother.
Because, no matter how smart, strategic, or passionate you may be, you have been sent out as sheep among wolves.
I stole his gun. I hid it, unloaded and wrapped in a towel, in a box of chintzy craft supplies, knitting, and fashion accessories I’d accrued as a teenager. It was the last place he’d look. I left the ammo in his dresser drawer. It was my way of mocking him, as if to say, “I’ve taken your power, but left the bullets so you can play marbles with them.”
In a dramatic piece published by The New Yorker, author Rebecca Mead refers to, The Passion of Emma González, comparing the plucky teen girl to Joan of Arc, and by implication, Jesus Christ. While the writer no doubt intends the saintly veneration of González, she is contributing to the psychological crucifixion of these children.
Here’s Why Emotional Abusers Use Insults, Slander, and Online Harassment to Silence Opposing Views
Over the past year, I’ve been writing a book called, Those Who Weep, which chronicles the spiritual recovery process of abuse survivors. As I continue to write and edit, I … Continue reading The Bleak Reality of Male Abuse Survivors
If you follow me on Twitter, you know I’ve been very vocal lately about my past experiences with child abuse and domestic violence. However, I originally came out about my … Continue reading What To Expect When You Come Out As An Abuse Survivor
This morning a pastor friend of mine, Reverend J. Michael Dixon of The Orchard Church in Chicago, sought to encourage me by tweeting me 1 John 3:1. I frequently speak … Continue reading See, What Kind of Love: How 1 John 3 Speaks to Child Abuse Survivors
In anticipation of Christmas, this past Sunday our pastor preached from Luke 1. It’s the chapter where an angel appears to Zechariah the priest and prophesies the birth of John … Continue reading To Turn the Hearts of the Fathers
As a child, it was weird watching the news and seeing the media abuzz with Bill Clinton’s sex scandals. I was probably about seven years old. I remember how my … Continue reading Here’s What It’s Like Witnessing Sex Abuse Scandals As A Child Abuse Survivor